Host your own Love Dare Challenge for the couples in your congregation. Print the following cards and hand them out each week of the challenge. (We printed the challenge on one side and the prayer on the back.) These simple, easy to complete activities will help your couples find quality time together and will hopefully strengthen the marital relationship. You could end the challenge with a free date night for the couple. If the couple completes the challenge, they are eligible to drop their kids off on a designated evening for free child care.

Challenge Cards - This is set for four weeks of challenges followed by two bonus challenges. The prayer cards mentioned on the extra challenges can be found at http://www.shopfamilylife.com/lifting-wife-prayer-crd.html.

WEEK 1 – Unconditional Love
WEEKLY CHALLENGE
Do something out of the ordinary this week for your spouse – something that proves (to you and to them) that your love is based on your choice and nothing else. Fix her dinner. Write and leave a love note where it will be found during the day. Buy his favorite dessert. Fold the laundry. Demonstrate love to them for the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage.

PRAYER
Father God, We pray that Your voice will be so prominent an influence that our minds, will, and emotions will desire to relentlessly pursue a God-honoring marriage. We confess that our heart is easily influenced by lesser voices, so give us an unfailing desire for Your ways, not ours. Help us to seek Your truth, not a false, deceptive counterfeit. Bring people into our lives who will guide us into a deeper love for You and each other. Amen.

WEEK 2 – The Power of Influences
WEEKLY CHALLENGE
Identify the things that are taking time or interest from your relationship with your spouse; any worldly influence or addiction that’s stealing your affections and turning your heart away from your spouse. Choose to spend the time with your spouse this week instead of spending time with those destructive self-interests.

PRAYER
Lord Jesus, Son of God, You loved us unconditionally when you broke the bread and offered the cup of forgiveness. Thank you, Jesus, Son of God. Give us the courage to follow You into a selfless love affair with each other. From this day forward, love my mate through me. Amen.

WEEK 3 – Forgiveness
WEEKLY CHALLENGE
Whatever you haven’t forgiven in your spouse, forgive it today. Let it go. Just as we ask Jesus to “Forgive us our debts” each day, we must ask Him to help us “Forgive our debtors” each day as well. Unforgiveness has been keeping you and your spouse in prison too long. Say from your heart, “I choose to forgive.”

PRAYER
Our Savior, Jesus Christ, In Your loving sacrifice, you placed us above all, so that we may experience Your love for eternity. Fill our hearts with selfless love for each other. Let our words and actions demonstrate the love and honor we pledged to each other. Bless us in our efforts to honor and cherish each other. Amen.

WEEK 4 – Honoring and Cherishing Your Spouse
WEEKLY CHALLENGE
Choose a way to show honor and respect to your spouse that is above your normal routine. It may be holding the door for her. It might be putting his clothes away for him. It may be the way you listen and speak in your communication. Show your spouse that he or she is highly esteemed in your eyes.

PRAYER
Father, The greatest miracle of our life is the wideness of Your forgiveness. We are amazed by Your love for us. We admit that there are times when we have wounded and have been wounded by each other. We pray that the grace, love, and forgiveness that flowed down on us, will also flow freely in our marriage. Teach us how to forgive as we have been forgiven. We pray that You will help us forgive quickly. Amen.

EXTRA CHALLENGE
Begin praying today for your spouse’s heart. Using the prayer cards, begin a daily habit of lifting your spouse up in prayer.

PRAYER
Lord Jesus, my Designer and King, We pray for divine insight and inspiration in our lives. Give us the discernment we need to bless our family and each other. Teach us both to live by faith, having the ability to navigate through difficult issues and hard times. Give us communication that isn’t just surface talk. Help us to spend our words wisely and listen with a heart of compassion. You brought us together. You claimed us. And we claim each other for the glory of Your kingdom. Amen.

EXTRA CHALLENGE
Prepare a special dinner at home, just for the two of you. The dinner can be as nice or as simple as you prefer. Focus this time on getting to know your spouse better, perhaps in areas you’ve rarely talked about. Determine to make it an enjoyable evening for you and your spouse.

PRAYER
Use the “Lifting My Wife/Husband In Prayer” cards to guide your prayer this week.